Attracting emotionally unavailable people, toxic relationships and feeling a low sense of self-worth may be your father wound.
We hear of a term ‘daddy issues’. Personally as someone who has a deep father wound, I hate this term. It’s used in a very sexual tone.
Our sense of self-worth comes from our father. He’s our first imprint of male love. Not all of us get to experience the joy and pure love as our fathers were born with their own generational trauma and maybe didn’t know how to be a father themselves.
Some fathers are completely absent, or the lack of love and support is more painful and damaging that if they were completely absent.
Our father is our protector, guider, financial provider, our safe keeper. Whereas the mother is the nurturing role, the caregiver. Typically speaking and from an energy point of view this is how our cups are filled as we enter and proceed through our lives.
When there is an absent father or one who isn’t fully in the father role and we have to be our own inner father, we experience ‘divine father distortion’ – think of the classic story of the girl falling for her therapist or guru, they are falling in love with the what they lack of and didn’t get from their dad.In relationships this transpires to being drawn to unavailable men who give us breadcrumbs and are emotionally unavailable or treat us like crap.
Signs you need to work on your father wound:
- You’re a perfectionist
- You’re an overachiever and highly productive, to the point of exhaustion and burn out
- You lack confidence and self-worth
- You highly depend on others; needy/clingy
- You have a poor relationship with money
- Inability to make decisions
- Can’t set boundaries
- Overdo and overgive
- Hyper-masculine
- Can’t express your emotions
Wild Flow Co | Could it be your father wound? | 2024
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